- Sex resumes from six weeks post-op.
- Well-performed reconstruction improves sexual comfort, not the opposite.
- Persistent discomfort beyond three months warrants review.
When can you have sex again?
Penetrative sex is usually reintroduced from six weeks after prolapse surgery, once the vaginal walls have healed and the six-week review is complete.
What changes — and what doesn't
Most women report that sex is better, not worse, after a properly performed reconstructive repair. The dragging, heaviness or bulge that had been getting in the way is gone. Vaginal calibre is chosen intraoperatively to be normal — not tight — because a vagina that is too narrow is a surgical error, not a bonus.
In the first few months, some women notice a small area of tenderness at the repair line; this settles as the tissue matures. Local vaginal oestrogen from around eight weeks helps healing and comfort in postmenopausal women.
Talking to your partner
Slow, patient, well-lubricated reintroduction — with the woman in control of pace and depth — is the standard advice for the first few times. If discomfort persists beyond three months, it is a reason to be reviewed, not a reason to accept it.
Frequently asked questions
Will the vagina be tighter?
It should be normal, not tight. A well-designed repair restores anatomy, it does not narrow it.
Is orgasm affected?
The nerves that mediate orgasm are not disturbed by standard prolapse repair.
Can I use lubricant?
Yes — water-based lubricant is helpful, especially during the healing phase.
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